She can’t run away from seeking her own existence. She’s thrown into chaos. She asks herself: ‘What is reality? Can the facts of our lives change according to our perceptions? Or do we prefer not to perceive the facts, as we fear facing reality? Isn’t this self-betrayal?’
.Journalist Seçkin Ersin receives an anonymous letter suggesting that there’s material for an exclusive and explosive story if he observes Ilgım, the wife of a prominent businessman. It is part detective story and part chronicle of the developing attraction and love between journalist and prey, and it explores the absurdity of how men see women and how the male gaze has conditioned and dominated perceptions of the female.
Can a woman get undressed by herself?” This question is the key to a woman’s never-ending inner journey, which requires lots of courage and self-honesty. The protagonist of the novel, Lal, represents the modern type of woman living in a big city, Istanbul. She deplores the fact that a woman has to be so brave to undress herself in order to exist in this world ruled by men, and this prompts her own journey.
She starts with an attempt to become free of social, religious and ethical obligations, and she faces the challenge of being aware of herself and her sexuality and gets to know her body. The book is highly focused on the relationship between women and men, and it brings to this relationship a radical change in perspective.
When in 2004, the Turkish state became alerted to this RISK, and “Stop Hurting My Flesh”, whose themes included incest, was banned. The grounds for this ban were “Destroying the Turkish family order, offending the Namus, (which translates as virtue, chastity, or honour, of society) arousing sexual desire in the readers and disturbing the order of society by inducing fear within women, by using a feminist approach.” GUILTY.
Stop Hurting My Flesh is the story of four courageous women, Sude, Ada, Derin and Çakil, who have succeeded in existing by undressing their bodies and facing their fears and traumas. The protagonists now desire to reach new women to help them start their own existential inner journey. They gather in an ancient house located on the Aegean lands that have been a cradle for many civilisations in history.
Rüya (meaning ‘Dream’), meets with Kaya (meaning ‘Rock’), who is a pretty tough character. But Rüya knows that love needs patience, effort, responsibility, making choices and knowledge. Here comes the main question of this novel: ‘Is there wisdom in love?’
Inanna, the protagonist of ‘Hope Is A Curse’, is a physics professor. She starts a relationship with a theatre director. With his encouragement, she begins to write a play, ‘Hope is a Curse’. During this creative process, she has to re-live her past, face the reality of the people she is surrounded with, and she questions both love and her own existence.
This is Meltem Arikan’s first research book, is written for women and men who want to communicate with awareness of each other’s differences.
By denying our own personal pains, we have created the current world where the absence of love is called love. Today, perhaps what lies beneath the hypocritical life we have reached is denial. Denial of the need to confront the deadly fear we have for the pains we’ve engraved within ourselves. Pain and empathy are strongly related to each other, and oppressing pain destroys empathy. The more we are open to pain, the more capable we are of feeling empathy. As long as we continue to refuse to understand the link between the denial of our own pain and its alliance with authority – rather than being an expression of internalised behaviour – (morality) will be nothing more than etiquette.
So it is this phenomenon of how women in pain punish themselves and how the guilt complex passes down to women from their mothers and grandmothers, alienating them from life. The worry of not being loved, the feeling of being estranged from yourself…either the freedom of pleasure or the captivity of fears….